The technical term for mediation is a “structured negotiation process”. You can leave that bit to our mediators to sort out.
What you need to know is that this is a chance to explain how you are feeling, in a safe place with a neutral person helping out.
You can talk about how the kids are coping and listen to what the kids need from both of you. It’s a chance to outline what you are worried about and what you need for a better peace of mind. We want you to listen to how your ex might think you can both get there.
If you keep hitting brick walls, or conversations end up in arguments we can help find a more productive path forward and work with you on having these conversations in the future.
It can be really tough, and often there’s a lot to get off your chest.
And then you can both start moving forward.
This negotiation is about finding a way for both of you to look at the whole family problem – whether that’s how much time each of you spends with your kids, or how much money each of you needs to move house – and to come up with a solution everyone can live with.
You need to listen as much as you talk and we will help keep all that on track – you need to share what you need and how you are feeling. We want you to be heard and we want you to hear.
For some of you, you will be able to sort things out once and for all. For others it will be the first step on the path of better communication and healthy co-parenting.
We are solutions-focussed. We want the same thing as you – for your kids to thrive and be the best they can be, and for you to be able to confidently start again.